First date conversation starters and ideas

There is nothing worse, when meeting someone for the first time, than that awkward silence after the initial greeting. Kick the silence into orbit with these conversation starters:

  • How was your day?
  • You look really nice, where did you get (item in question)?
  • How was work?
  • Have you seen any movies recently? How did you like it/them?
  • What kind of music do you listen to?
  • What sports do you play or like? How long have you played for?
  • What interesting things did you do this weekend (week)?
  • Have you ever been to (a local restaurant)
  • What kind of foods do you like?
  • Where are you from?
  • Where did you go to school/college?
  • Have you read any good books lately? Was it interesting?
  • What do you normally do for fun?
  • Do you like (an interest of yours)?
  • What’s the neatest place you’ve traveled to?
  • What’s one place you haven’t traveled to yet that you really want to go?

These simple ideas will get the conversation flowing and you will find out what the other is interested in.Be sure to listen carefully to what the other person says so that you can ask follow-up questions while learning new things.

Source : www.onlinedatingmagazine.com

Posted by admin on March 22nd, 2010 under First DateTags: ,  • No Comments

Why the cocky and funny attitude is attractive to women

I get a lot of email from guys who don’t quite get the Cocky & Funny attitude.

It just doesn’t make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or should make them feel attraction.

I can understand this, because I was exactly the same way the first few times I heard it and saw it.

I kept thinking to myself “If I do this cocky and funny thing, I’m only going to come across as arrogant… and that can’t make women like me more.”

Well, was I ever wrong.

You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn’t logical. It doesn’t follow the rules that it “should” follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful emotion that has reasons and triggers that don’t make any sense at first glance…

I’m sure you’ve seen many attractive women with guys who mistreated them, abused them, and were exactly the opposite of what you’d expect a woman to accept.

Why ?

ATTRACTION. That’s Why.

In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no amount of being “bad”, abusive, or jerk-ish can convince a woman feeling a strong attraction to leave.

So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit about the Cocky & Funny attitude, why it works, and how to use it to attract women (without having to be an abusive jerk).

First of all, you have to remember that the formula is Cocky PLUS Funny. Always both.

If you act too cocky, you’ll come off as arrogant and insecure only.

If you’re just funny, always telling jokes, and making people laugh, you will probably come across as “too goofy.”

But if you use BOTH together, you will create magic. Cocky & Funny is like sparring… it’s sport… it’s fun… it’s challenging… it’s interesting when used with skill.

So let’s get clear about what “Cocky & Funny” is.

Here’s a cocky statement:

“Her dress makes her look fat.”

Here’s a Cocky & Funny statement:

“If she doesn’t find a dress that fits better, the fashion police are going to send in the SWAT team for her ass.”

Get it ?

Start with arrogance, then add humor.

So why does it work to attract women ?

Well, the short (email newsletter size) answer is:

COCKY AND FUNNY ATTRACTS WOMEN BECAUSE IT QUICKLY AND DIRECTLY SAYS ALL THE RIGHT THINGS ABOUT YOU.

Women are attracted to “alpha male” types. We all know that. Women are attracted to a sense of humor. We all know that one too.

Women AREN’T attracted to men who give away their power, kiss up to them, smother them with attention, act like whipped puppies, and get nervous just being in the same room.

If you meet an attractive women, and IMMEDIATELY start giving her a hard time about something, busting on her, and have fun, it basically says:

“You are interesting enough to talk to, but you’re going to have to do a lot more than just look good to impress me. Your beauty doesn’t make me nervous in the slightest, I’m perfectly calm, and in fact, I’m so comfortable that I just noticed something about you that I’m going to make fun of…”

There is no faster way on earth to communicate all the right attitudes, beliefs, self-image, comfort, confidence, and power than to be Cocky & Funny.

(Except maybe to put on a perfect Brad Pitt costume.)

Once you start using this attitude, you will be totally astounded at the results.

Here’s a low-risk example:

Next time you’re at the grocery store in the checkout line paying for your groceries, say:

“So how much of this cash do you get to keep?” (as you hand her the money)

She’ll probably laugh and say: “None… I wish.”

To which you can respond with:

“Oh, I figured you were pocketing 10 or 20%… I assumed you were rich and could support me. But now I’m not interested… I want a rich girl.” (Turn up your nose)

This is a great one. It’s always fun to ask a woman if she’s rich or famous, then when she says that she’s not, tell her that it messed up her chances with you, and that you’re not interested anymore.

One of the keys to the Cocky & Funny attitude is to never “crack.” If she opens her mouth and gives you the “I can’t believe you just said that” look, you need to turn it up a notch…

Most guys will crack and say “Oh, I was just kidding.”

DON’T DO THAT! It makes you look like a WUSSY.

In the example above, if the checker looks at you and gives you the open mouthed “I can’t believe you said that” look, and says “Hey! I may not be rich, but I’m nice!”, you just look at her and say “Nice isn’t good enough, I need RICH AND nice.”

Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get under her skin enough by teasing, busting on her, and acting Cocky & Funny that it ignites the magical challenge/ attraction mechanism.

So get out there and use it, because the magic formula of Cocky & Funny will create all kinds of good things for you. You’ll see.

Author : David DeAngelo

Posted by admin on March 22nd, 2010 under SecretsTags: , ,  • No Comments

The power of body language in dating

When you are approaching a woman or a group of women, its obviously important to convey that you are a high-value male. How do you do that, you may ask? A lot of it comes from being internally validated. When you walk in confidently, it shows in your body language. You naturally do things like take wide strides, take up space when standing, and make direct eye contact. A good technique to take is to think in your mind “I am a confident person, present, nothing affects me emotionally.” If you come from a strong mental frame as someone who is just looking to make sure everyone else in the venue has a good time, you will be much more successful in conveying this in your body language. When you do that, it also shows up in your speech in your tonation and speed of speech.

When you are opening a group, it is important to convey a playful and teasing attitude. You want to be playful and yet at the same time convey that you an emotionally unaffected high-value male. Teasing is another skill that you can master with practice. Part of being playful and high value, is that you are giving value to the group. Everything you say should add some type of value to the group but should not come from a supplicating place. For example, you want to convey that you are there to have fun and that the person you are interacting with is there for your enjoyment. The last thing you want to do is to come off as needy, and as a person who wants something from them.

Make up your own teasing comments. Use new ones on the fly if you notice something on them that catches your eye. Call out any type of quirky behavior. Push-pull. Do anything to get her emotionally invested in the conversation. Be different. Don’t be afraid to be you!

Source : www.scrollandgun.com

Posted by admin on March 22nd, 2010 under Body LanguageTags: ,  • No Comments

The perfect alpha male body language

Today, there are plenty advices on how to be an Alpha male theme. There are lot of “wanna be gurus” who provides some incredible secrets how to be more successful, how to seduce hot girls. They offer you some magic sentences, hypnosis and other great stuff that will bring you overnight success. However, do you really believe in that? I don’t think so.

Anyway, there is still one thing that can immediately change how other people will look at you. And yes, you guess, that is your body language. Some smart people said that 55% of communication is by the body language we use: eye contact, gestures and facial expressions. 38% is conveyed in the voice, its quality, use of tone and inflections. Only 7% is conveyed in the words we use. So, we will discuss about eye contact, your body language while you sitting and your body language while you walking and standing.

Eyes are the window to the soul. I believe its origin in the bible 58 to 68 A.D. Matthew 6 22-23. Don’t ever be afraid to watch people in eyes. By watching people in eyes, you project strong image. When you talk with someone, keep eye contact. But don’t stare. Staring is not good, it’s going to make you look social rigid. Just have relaxed, confident eye contact that will make you and other person feel comfortable.

Ok, what is your body language while you sitting? Do you have opened or closed B.L.? If you not sure how to project a good image, start with something simple: coping. Look around you, find some male that you see as confident and start copying him. Have some role model. And one more thing, pay attention where you sit. Always sit on positions from where you can see everything. Believe me, that is an important characteristics of Alpha male.

Let’s see walking: what s the way that Alpha male walks. Well, if you don’t, start walking with your all body. Move your all body, it’s yours. If you can’t control your body, who can!? Not me, that is for sure… Once again, find a good role model and just apply his traits. Just don’t find some fake male, that might finish bad for you.

So, what is conclusion? Everyone can have great body language. Everyone can become a successful Alpha male. But, only a few will become. What is with you? Are you ready for some positive changes?

Source : www.becomearealalphamale.com

Posted by admin on March 22nd, 2010 under Body LanguageTags: , ,  • No Comments

6 body language attraction tips

Having good body language will make you appear more relaxed and confidant and therefore you will look more attractive. Take a look at the following body language attraction tips to help you pull this off with ease.

1. Your movements should be slow and controlled! When you make sudden jerky movements you will look nervous. So take your time and don’t let anybody rush you.

2. Work on bringing your shoulders backwards! This should be when you’re sitting down, standing or walking. This will improve your posture and make you look more refined.

3. If you’re sat down talking to somebody, then make sure you’re not leaning forward! Lean back and make them be the one to lean forward. This will make you look like you are in control of the situation and are the most confidant person out of the two of you.

4. Always look people in the eyes when you’re talking to them! This is very obvious but you’d be amazed just how many people fail to do this. Confidant people look in the eyes when they’re talking.

5. When you’re walking, you can improve your posture by tilting your hips forward ever so slightly. Your belly will stick out as a consequence so you will have to suck in which will further improve your posture. When doing this, it is very hard to look at the ground when walking which is exactly how you should be anyway! To further give yourself an improved posture when walking, retract your shoulders backwards.

6. When seated, spread your legs out and lean back on your chair. You can look extra confidant if you prop one arm over the back of the adjacent chair. Also you can put one of your feet on the knee of your opposing leg. You will look very relaxed!

Source : www.howtobecomeanalphamale.info/body-language-attraction/

Posted by admin on March 22nd, 2010 under Body LanguageTags: , ,  • No Comments

How to make a woman chase after you – make her think about you using mind control tricks

Have you ever found yourself in front of the girl of your dreams and wished things could be much easier in making her fall for you? Have you ever wished to have the power to get any girl to run after you, in general? If so, keep reading and find yourself getting amazed at these deadly tactics of seduction that can make your dreams come true…

How To Get Girls To Run After You – Deadly Tactics Of Seduction To Reach The Next Level

Tactic #1: Make a mark right away. You only have a single chance at making a great first impression, so make sure yours lasts for life. To do this, plan out your approach carefully and make sure it sticks out in her head so that she truly remembers you, no matter what the reason behind it may be.

Tactic #2: Keep a little air of arrogance. A little pinch of cockiness could be all you need before girls start seeing you as an attractive guy. If you have a laid-back attitude, girls could get a little frustrated since you will appear to be irresistible and utterly challenging.

Try not to go over-the-top with this, though; you do not want to seem extremely arrogant since this could make her lose interest in you for life.

Tactic #3: Hack into her head. If you get desperate, try out some forbidden tactics of mind control that experts of seduction are famous for using. These can get girls attracted to you in practically an instant – usually in less than 15 minutes.

Although these tactics are deemed amoral by some people, they really aren’t – provided you only use them to the best intentions, that is. Plus, with these tactics of mind control, you can be more prepared than other guys in the world of easy and fast female dating and seduction.

Author : Derek Rake

Posted by admin on March 22nd, 2010 under SeductionTags: ,  • No Comments

How to get beyond friends and become lovers with a woman

If you have ever made the mistake of trying to just be friends with a woman, then you know how frustrating it can be when you finally realize that you will NEVER become the object of her desire. Instead of being the guy that she turns to when she wants romance and intimacy, you will be the guy that she turns to when she needs to complain or whine about the latest jerk that she is seeing.

Want to know how you can make sure that you never end up being just friends with a woman?

Instead of being her friend, you already know right off the bat that you would like to be more than just that. So, why even bother trying to use the approach of just being friends with her, hoping that she will one day “come” to her senses and fall for you?

It’s not going to happen.

Here’s how you make sure that it never does and how you easily go from friends to lovers with a woman:

1. When you first approach her, you have to qualify her. What do I mean by this? Well, 9 out of 10 times, the man gets qualified by the woman. She asks the questions and he tries to do everything he can to win her approval and win her affection. You can turn that around by making HER have to win your approval and YOUR affection. When you do this, you make her ask the question, who IS this guy?

2. When you flirt with her, don’t try too hard, instead make it FUN. One of the most defeating things that you can do to build attraction with a woman is to try TOO hard when you are flirting with a woman. When you do this, you are saying that you are needy for her attention and you make yourself seem as if you don’t ‘deserve’ her. When you just make it fun, then you really get to pique her interest and get her to want to flirt back with you.

3. When you are with her, you have to trigger sexual attraction. Don’t just think that because she is smiling and laughing when she is with you that she wants to be anything more than friends. If you want to be sure of that, you have to trigger sexual attraction with a woman, or else, say hello to the friend zone and frustration!

Source : www.geturgirl.com

Posted by admin on March 22nd, 2010 under MistakesTags: ,  • No Comments

Create massive attraction with a woman

Let’s say that you have just met a woman and you are totally smitten by her. She is beautiful, sexy, smart and everything that you could possibly want in a woman and more. Do you know what you need to do to make her feel massive attraction and dream about you? If you are like most guys, you are probably a little lost when you have to turn it on and make her feel attracted to YOU.

It’s not much of secret that men and women respond to completely different things when it comes to attraction, love, and dating. For you, the moment that you saw her, you just absolutely felt that you had to be with her. For her, there are a few little things that you MUST do to make her feel the same way.

So, what are you going to do to create massive attraction with a woman?

Here’s a little guide for you to create powerful attraction with a woman, almost immediately:

1. Use eye contact attraction to make her feel like it’s love at first sight. You probably don’t pay much attention to what your eyes are doing or ’saying’ to a woman when you meet her, but you better believe that she is. When you can use eye contact attraction to give her the feeling of love at first sight, you immediately make her want to be alone with you, which is when you can really work your charm and your magic.

2. Make her laugh and make her giggle. Once you have hooked her in with your eyes, then you want to make her laugh. Just making a woman laugh is a good way to build attraction, but when you combine it with eye contact attraction, it’s like infatuation on steroids, and you will be able to make her feel like time is standing still when she is around you.

3. Use physical touch to build intimacy. Once you have used eye contact attraction AND made her laugh, the next step is to use physical touch to build intimacy with a woman. When you make her feel an intimate and physical connection with you, it’s only a matter of time before you have her dreaming about you and wishing that she was at your side throughout the day.

Being able to make a woman feel like it is love at first sight is the secret little ingredient to making her feel MASSIVE attraction for YOU.

Source : www.geturgirl.com

Posted by admin on March 22nd, 2010 under AttractionTags: ,  • No Comments

How to attract any woman you want – without looking like a fool

Almost every guy’s dream is to be able to attract any woman they want. Sure, most men succumb to the idea that this could only happen in a fantasy world, but that does not mean that YOU have to think that way. You have most likely been out in a club before and seen an overweight, average looking guy that somehow happened to have a hottie by his side. Proof that you don’t need to be in great shape to get the girl.

So, what is the secret to discovering how to attract any woman you want?

1. You have to approach women that you think are out of your league. Just because you think that she would never say yes to a guy like you does not mean that is what will happen. And until you do become comfortable approaching women out of your league, you will never have the confidence to approach any woman you desire, much less build enough attraction with her to date her.

2. Body language has to be your friend and not your foe. With most guys, their body language gives away their lack of confidence as soon as they get within 20 feet of a beautiful girl. Women are a lot more likely to pay attention to your body language as you are to check out hers. And when your body language says that you lack confidence, women are not going to give you the time of day.

3. Sex cannot be a taboo subject to you. If you are uncomfortable when it comes to talking about sex or getting sexual in any way with a woman, you have to get over it. When you really want to be able to approach any woman you want and make her want you in return, sexual attraction is a MUST. And if you treat sex like a taboo subject with a woman, then you are not going to be able to create irresistible sexual attraction with her, will you?

Source : www.geturgirl.com

Posted by admin on March 22nd, 2010 under AttractionTags: ,  • No Comments

How to turn a woman on – Using time-tested female psychology tricks that work amazingly well

I have one easy question: are you aware of how easy it can be to turn girls on? To do this, you simply have to plant several thoughts into her head and make her think about the things you would like to do with her. Read on to find out the deadly methods that can turn girls on in an instant and with the utmost ease…

How To Turn A Woman On – Using Time-Tested Female Psychology Tricks That Work Amazingly Well

- Be Positive. To get girls turned on, you need to get them to feel great about themselves. Keep in mind that girls are usually insecure, regardless of how hot she looks. Even Jessica Alba and Angelina Jolie have these insecurities. That is why you have to assure them of how great they look anytime that you can.

This does not mean that you should praise girls mindlessly; say something that comes with substance. Try not to be too direct, either; be tactful!

- Begin With Some Touching.
Remember that there is no point in turning girls on if you do not touch them. Once you get a girl to feel a positive vibe in your presence, it would be time for you to take things to a higher level.

This is why you need to begin touching girls in places that aren’t sexual. One huge mistake that guys make in this department is begin to touch the sensitive areas of girls like their butts or inner thighs. Do not commit the same mistake! Instead, go to areas that are quite safe like their elbows, hands and knees. Appear to be non-threatening while you do so and keep in mind to take things a step at a time, too.

A helpful tip that you could use if a girl rejects your touches and pushes your hands away during your attempts is to not force the subject. Instead, play tricks on her head and totally shut her out. This is going to get her curious and make her try to get you back.

Author : Derek Rake

Posted by admin on March 22nd, 2010 under SeductionTags: ,  • No Comments